What to Write in a Sympathy Card
Whether it’s a close friend or relative, a co-worker, or an acquaintance, we’ve all been a position where we’ve wanted to send or sign a sympathy card for the bereaved and we’ve been at a loss for words. There’s the go-to tried and true phrases such as “Sorry for your loss,” and “Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family,” but sometimes we’d like to use something a little different.
If you’re sending a sympathy card or note, and aren’t quite sure what to say, we’ve compiled a few suggestions, with the help of Hallmark, that may help you send just the right message.
Simple condolences are often just what is needed. Perhaps the card you’re sending has said most of what you wanted to say. Or if you’re sending a card along with other people there may not be much room for each person to express their personal sympathy. Brief messages can still express warmth and caring.
● “Remembering your wonderful mother and wishing you comfort.”
● “Thinking of you as you celebrate your father’s remarkable life.”
● “I was saddened to hear that your grandmother passed. My thoughts are with you and your family.”
● “My deepest sympathy as you remember Alice.”
Praise for the Deceased: The bereaved may receive great comfort when hearing that others thought highly of their loved one. If you knew the deceased, consider adding a personal touch to your message.
● “We are sorry for the loss of your dear brother. He was a sweet man and a wonderful father. He always had something nice to say and we will miss his smiling face on Sunday mornings.”
● “What an amazing person and what a remarkable life.”
● “Your father was a kind and generous man. His service was the perfect tribute to him and all that he has done for our community. He will be missed.”
● “Celebrating the life of a good woman and mourning her passing with you.”
● “Your son touched many lives. I am so grateful for the chance to have known her and called her a friend.”
Sharing the Sadness: Expressing your own sadness over the loss of the departed seems like an unlikely choice but it can often help the grieving realize they are not alone in their mourning.
● “I’m going to miss her, too.”
● “Sharing in the sorrow over the loss of your son.”
● “I am deeply saddened by the loss of your wife. I’ll always remember her warmly and feel lucky I had the pleasure of knowing her.”
● “We are missing Tony along with you. With heartfelt sympathy.”
Wishing Comfort: Wishes, thoughts, or prayers for comfort, hope, peace and healing are naturally positive and uplifting. Include one as part of a longer message to express your sympathy or let one stand alone and convey a simple message.
● “I hope, in time, all the good memories will comfort you.”
● ‘I hope you feel surrounded by much love.”
● “My heart goes out to you and your family.”
● “Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort as you remember your best friend.”
● “Holding you close in my thoughts and prayers and hoping you are doing OK.”
Whatever you decide to write, the bereaved will appreciate your sentiments. The mere fact that you took time out of your life to send them well-wishes or a simple note will let them know you’re thinking of them and will surely provide a measure of comfort.